The term "RSVP" comes from the French expression répondez s'il vous plaît, meaning "please respond." If RSVP is written on an invitation, it means the host has requested that the guest respond to say if they plan to attend the party. However, these days, RSVPs for events and conferences, especially on social media with tags of "Interested" or "Going" seem more like REGRETS ONLY because more and more women are turning down their own RSVP to living their best life and improving their overall well-being.
Unless you are new to me and Girlfriends Chat, then there is no way that you could miss out on who I am and what Girlfriends Chat represents: Women rediscovering and redefining themselves with confidence, balance, and a commitment to their self-care. Why? Because as women we become overwhelmed and overworked with trying to do and be everything for everyone, that we more than OFTEN, forget about ourselves. And even when it comes to making time for ourselves, or going after our goals, or checking into resources or conferences that can help us, we pass up to the opportunity to make our own RSVP towards our happiness. Largely, we justify why we can't do things that help us to overcome our frustration and move powerfully towards our success.
And here's why!
You Don't Believe You're Worth It!
You are ready to go forward with starting a business or obtaining a certification to advance your career. You find a program. You are ready to enroll. You get to the checkout, and all of sudden... you get STICKER SHOCK! You can't believe how much this is going to cost you! You literally pause in your tracks, and start negotiating with yourself the many ways to get it done on your own. After all, you are more than capable of doing it yourself. I mean, you've been doing it all by yourself up to this point, so why can't you.
You think... no worries, I can "GOOGLE IT". In the back of your mind, you are screaming, "I'm not going to spend that much money for this!" So you move and scroll on past an opportunity. Meanwhile, because you are "googling" your HOW TO solution, you become distracted by the internet cookies! "OOU...Cute Shoes! Oh and these are cute too!" And you swipe your card on a purchase. You think, "It feels good to do something for myself! After all, I deserve it!"
Right? Yeah, you do deserve it. But you deserve to be more vested in how good you can feel. NOT just how good you will look. And if we're being honest, those new cute shoes will just sit in the closet. Maybe you will wear them one time. But you can't wear them nearly as many times if you are not POSITIONED to be in the right spaces with the right people. Now you're out $100, all when you could have secured your seat in the class or program to take you to the next level.
You Wish for Things to Happen!
Alright Girlfriend... what do you want, right now? What have you been praying over, and wishing to happen? Right now, you are probably saying, "I am stressed out, I wish I could take a vacation." "I've been working so hard, I wish I could get a raise." "I need to make more money for my family, I wish I could get this business going." "I'm tired of the dating scene, I wish I could meet a good man in my life!"
Well stop just wishing for it happen! I know you're thinking, "What do you mean, 'Stop!' I want the best in my life!" I agree with you! Especially, because I firmly believe in the Law of Attraction. I have seen how visualization has helped me and I have been able to manifest my happiness.
However, just wishing for things to happen doesn't make it happen. Moreover when we expect, or think things should happen and it doesn't, we think there is fault in our prayers or dreams. But, it’s likely there have been several missed opportunities along the way for you to develop a road map for your growth and vision. An opportunity for you to take time off... or to apply for a new position... to attend a conference... or to take up that offer for drinks after work. While you are doing all this wishing, let me ask you something...
WHAT ARE YOU DOING?
More than likely you are doubting yourself. You are not moving forward with the tools you have, or you are looking for someone to validate what you know you need to do. Which brings up the final reason...
You Won't Give Yourself Permission
You should have already known it was coming! Let's face it... it's the basis of truly RSVP'ing to your own life party! But the reason you are sending your REGRETS to your life party is because you are placing more value on permission from others than you place on permission from yourself. And that's where you have been going wrong!
Think about it for a minute. You are ready to take a plunge into an event. Maybe you have been interested in going to Vegas or taking a cruise. You call up your BEST Girlfriends! So you start planning, and take the time to become the event coordinator. You get rates on flights, hotels, and activities. You present this detailed itinerary to all of your girlfriends who said that they were interested in attending. They are excited! And they are ready. But when deposits and money are due, they back out. For whatever reason. "Girl, I can't right now." "Let's plan next year when we have more time." "Something came up." And you decide that they're right. You are disappointed, but you don't let them know. Instead, you just fold the event and tuck it away.
Meanwhile, the same group of girlfriends who folded on the plans have YET to meet you for lunch. You have not made that Girls Night Out happen. You make a few phone calls here and there, but not much else. And with all that planning, there was no execution. NOT EVEN ON YOUR PART. You researched the flights, hotels, and activities... you had the plans. Why didn't YOU just book it and go? Because you felt that your friends being a part of what you wanted was more important to you then you taking the time you wanted and needed for yourself. There was a need to have them validate you, and going in spite of them being with you would make you seem like a bad person. But guess what, it doesn't! It makes you determined! And your girlfriends could learn a thing or two about that!
Don’t let your life choices be determined by other’s opinions. Trying to please people will drain your energy.
So now Girlfriend, I have to ask you a question.... ARE YOU READY TO RSVP to your Life Party? Are you ready to RSVP to getting exactly what you want in your life? ARE YOU READY TO RSVP on moving forward with balance, confidence, and a commitment to YOUR self-care? Well then I invite you to RSVP to Level Up Your Life, Girlfriend! It is my latest book that will be released in August 2019! This book will be a complimentary gift to all of my Girlfriends Weekend Retreat Getaway (VIP) Guests! But, for you RSVP'ing right now, you will be entered into a drawing to get a FREE COPY! Yes, a FREE COPY just for taking action! And while you are RSVP'ing... grab your ticket to the Girlfriends Weekend Retreat taking place August 2-4, 2019 in Williamsburg, VA. Tickets to the weekend start at just $65! Learn more by visiting Girlfriends Weekend Retreat!
After launching Beginnings Family Enrichment, LLC full time in fall of 2016, Monique Williams experienced the overwhelming feelings of it not being "the right time". She had her own doubts about her ability to manage a business and support her family when the finances changed, and battled the thoughts of feeling like a failure when numbers didn't add up. She braved the questions about quitting a stable career path, especially when better job offers were beating down the door. All of this on the foundation of a single mom entrepreneur. However, she was determined to not to let those limiting beliefs prevent her from fulfilling her God-given purpose and lifelong passion. So Monique created the space to help women rediscover themselves and unearth what they truly want and deserve in life! Monique continues to nurture her thriving business offering consulting and coaching services!