Co-parenting can be a challenge if the best interest of children are not kept in mind as the main goal and focus between parents. Being a parent means putting your child's best interests above your own. It is important to have an amicable relationship with your ex as co-parents. It involves a commitment of sacrifice, communication, respect, and love.
This past March, I enjoyed the first family vacation with my son and his father since we ended our relationship several years ago. For our son's 4th birthday we braved a road trip to Orlando, Fl to visit the Magic Kingdom, or "Mickey's Castle" as my son affectionately called it. We vacationed as a family when our son was a just 2 months old and again when he was a tad bit older. We vowed that we would take our son to Disney by his 5th birthday and boy did we have a blast! While there were was a moment of wanting to pull each other's hair out, we managed by keeping effective communication. This is the first of many vacations that we will share as a Co-Parenting Family, but of course just one at a time!
The most important advice that I would like to share with other co-parents is to never sabotage your child's relationship with the other parent. Children should never be used as a pawn to get back at, to hurt, or to manipulate and influence the other parent. Second, commit to learn from each other. Negotiate and agree on how you can best handle such things as handing off the children for visitation, holidays, or events; agree on boundaries and discipline to raise your children with consistency regardless of which parent they're with at any given time; communicate about your child's development; and make sure to inform the other parent about changes in your life circumstances (employment, living arrangements, and relationships) so that the child is never the source of information.
Look forward to BFE's Parenting on the Same Page workshop!