3 Standards of Dating to Avoid Being Too Picky
When it comes to dating, we definitely have to know what we want in our potential spouse! But....are there are times when our wants supersede our intentions and expectations? ABSOLUTELY! When we become so consumed by our checklist of "must haves," we can lose sight of core principles and values. Ultimately we can find ourselves asking the age old question of, "Why am I still single?"
There is a common occurrence that happens after a breakup. We begin to think back on our past relationships and our "exes," (or whys as I call them) and we explore: "Why did I date her?" or "Why did I stay with him for so long?", or my favorite, "Why did I put up with this?" In asking these questions of ourselves we begin to identify ways for which this will never happen again. We come up with this list of all the potential things that we want to stay away from in our next relationship. And it will begin to evolve into what we want in our next partner. We identify what we believe to be is a great way to weed out potential "wastes of time" vs potential wives and husbands. But when we start to measure our potential dates to our list, we find that many of them are NOT meeting the cut...per se. So it brings me to two questions.... "are you being too picky?" or "are you setting realistic standards?"
Now this is not my attempt at telling you not to have standards and expectations of the type of man or woman that you desire to date. However, this is me calling you out if your list is focused on a man who is only 6'3 and above because you like to wear heels and can't date a man shorter than you or that a woman has to wear her natural hair because you are not a fan of extensions or weaves. Those superficial items are not going to help you get to the values and integrity of a person's character. So instead of creating a list of attributes to help you find love, you are creating a list of blocks that are further distancing you away from your goal.
To help you refocus your expectations, I am going to share with you 3 Standards of Dating to Avoid Being Too Picky:
What are your thoughts? Do you have other standards of dating to add?
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